Graduation is coming so soon! I actually can’t believe it. All year I’ve been very excited for graduation. Almost rushing it along. Very ready to move on to something…new. But now that it’s happening, it is actually really sad. Overwhelming. Unbelievable!
Anyways, since the end is so rapidly approaching, it’s had me reflecting upon my years here at Quinnipiac. It’s been a crazy time and definitely one with a lot of memories – good and bad (more good than bad though!).
I have made some really, really, REALLY awesome friends here. Friends that I know I will stay close with forever and ever. I’ve never been a person to believe in needing a ton of friends to be happy, and that’s stayed exactly the same here at QU. I know so many people here, but I’ve always kept the ones that I know I can count on no matter what extra close, and I am so thankful for those people. I love all of our memories and cannot wait for the many, many more to come. What would life be without friends?! Especially without the ones that turn into family along the way.
This weekend, I am planning on celebrating a lot. Celebrating the end of senior year, good friends, great times at Quinnipiac, four years of accomplishments, failures, triumphs, met goals and future ones set. It is a big weekend here at QU – the last big one, really – and definitely one worth enjoying.
And, what’s a celebration without champagne? A lot of it. As you’ve probably figured out about me, I love some bubbly. It’s my favorite (adult) beverage and I can’t wait to indulge this weekend.
In preparation, and for your drinking pleasure, I’ve put together a guide of some yummy champagne drinks. I think it definitely goes well by itself, but making cocktails is super fun and deviantly delicious. Check out my recommendations:
Here are links to the recipes (also to be found on my Champagne Pinterest board!):
What’s your favorite champagne cocktail? I’d love to try something new!
Lately I am completely obsessed with the future yet feeling anchored by the past. Is that normal for a senior nearing graduation? I like to think it is, but at the same time, I sometimes feel as though I’m totally getting in my own head. Do you know what I mean?
I spend shuttle rides and walks to class obsessing over where I’ll work and end up living. In the moments before I fall asleep, I find myself recalling everything from the past four years here at school. I feel as though I am caught in between two very, very different worlds and completely undecided over which one I’d rather be in, so instead of choosing, I have one foot in each.
I am also someone who gets extremely anxious. About almost all things. When I was younger, I used to get very anxious and nervous about paying for things at a cash register by myself. I would always ask my mom or even younger sister to do it for me. While I’m over that anxiety (thankfully!), I have recently been facing much anxiety about the future. I spend phone conversations with my mom in a near panic – Will I ever get married? Where am I going to end up living? How many children will I have if I even have them at all?! – Thankfully, my mom always knows the right thing to say. But still, these anxieties have come to haunt me at times of change, like, well…right now.
I also feel a magnetic pull towards the past. I have a hard time letting go. I feel, again, caught between my yearn to move on and my irrepressible yearn to hold on with all my might, scared of forgetting the things that have happened to me, the people I’ve met, the lessons I’ve learned, the sights I’ve seen, and the places I’ve been.
With all of these desires, pulls, thoughts, and (sometimes) full-on battles I have going on within my own head, I find myself so often letting moments pass me by. All too frequently, I find myself missing out on what’s going on right now: the present.
This past weekend I saw this quote and it brought me to a full reflection of how I’ve been battling with myself over the past and future:
After reading this, I felt really…inspired. I realize that because of the way I am and who I am, I’m never going to stop planning for, wondering about, and dreaming of the future. I also know I will never fully be able to let go of things that have happened to me in the past. But, like I said, when I read this quote, I felt an irresistible pull to live more in the moment. It made me realize that if, in moments of past/future distress, I reassert my focus on what’s going on right now, I can not only allow myself to calm down but also enjoy life more.
Graduation is less than a month away, and these last days here at Quinnipiac are definitely going to be pretty special. Monumental, even. I want to look back at them and realize I enjoyed them, that I remember these last QU moments with my friends and sorority sisters, in my dorm, around Hamden, and at the library. I am thankful that this quote shall serve as a reminder to actively do so.
Finals are approaching so quickly. It’s crazy (and totally overwhelming for so, so many reasons)!
Anyways, since we can now see finals on the horizon bur not quite here yet, it’s the perfect time to start preparing.
You might think it’s too early to effectively start prepping, but here are tips on how to alleviate finals week anxiety and stress starting now:
- Go to professors’ office hours – reaching out to your professors now before they get crazed with finals questions is the perfect way to get a head start. Ask your professors about class material, your grade, the format of your final exam, or review studying techniques. Don’y be afraid to go to them! Just this past week I asked on of my professors to put up the final review and she was more than happy to do it. Your professors are there to help you and by going to them it will show that you are organized and making a large effort.
- Prioritize and schedule – I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again – prioritize and schedule! To do this, take a blank sheet of paper and list all of your classes, leaving space in between. Then, fill in all assignments/exams you have left for the semester in each class, including dates. Write the most urgent stuff in one color, the next level of importance in another, and the more minor stuff in another. Then, highlight the most time consuming assignments in one color, the next time consuming in another, and so on. Then, you have an easy matching system. This makes it easy to know and see what needs to be done first and what can wait. After you do this, make a schedule for yourself. Hang these both up somewhere you’ll frequently see them so it stays on your mind and you stay motivated. Take a look at my examples (below). From them, you will see what is most important and what will take the most time via the font color/highlighting matching system. That dictates how my schedule goes and makes me understand the order I am working in better.
- Chip away at things – now that you have your schedule set, you can begin slowly chipping away at work rather than having to do an overwhelming amount in a few days or a week. One example of this is that I find useful for is studying for big exams. I like to make my study guides way in advanced.That way, I can start reading it casually each day. I read over it (or sections of it) between classes and before bed. That way, when I go to actually study for the exam a few days before I have already made my study guide and am very familiar with the material, making studying 100 times easier. Chipping away at things little by little makes things so much easier and less stressful.
- Do what’s hard now – I always say “Do what’s hard while things are easy”. This applies perfectly to this situation. Why not work on the hard stuff before the rush of finals week so it’s out of the way?!
- Leave yourself some wiggle room – when you’re doing things in advanced, making your work and study schedules, and planning ahead for finals, be sure to leave yourself wiggle room. The advantage to doing things ahead of time is that you get to do this! Because you’re planning ahead, you have a ton of time if something comes up, you get distracted, or if you take extra time on one or two particular things. Always allot extra time and don’t be too harsh on yourself if you get off track – that’s why you’re doing things in advance!
My matching examples:
Finals might seem far away, but manage your time wisely from now until then. This way, you can enjoy the last week of school instead of stressing out in a major way.
Everyone loves a fun night out, and I feel as though we can all name a night or two where we were, for lack of a better word, a hot mess.
I know I can, and let me tell you, I don’t look back on those nights very fondly.
Anyways, throughout college, I’ve come to learn that going out while remaining classy is not, in any way, impossible.
This is a good thing!
No one wants to get the reputation around campus of being a slob-kabob, so follow these easy-peasy steps towards having fun and retaining your dignity:
- Plan – when you’re going out, pick out your outfit before you start drinking. This way, you know you’re wearing something cute but appropriate. After you’ve had a couple of drinks, you might begin thinking that too-short skirt in the back of your closet is the perfect wardrobe choice…
- Spacers – in order to keep yourself from getting entirely too drunk, but “spacers” between your cocktails. In between flutes of champagne, cups of cranvodka, or glasses of win, drink a cup of ice water. Not only does this help you avoid drinking too much, but it also eliminates the possibility of a bad hangover the next morning (can you say double win?!).
- Stay with friends – your friends have a way of keeping you in check, and you should should do the same for them. Sticking with your besties can help save everyone from serious embarrassment.
- Make a commitment to yourself – I’ll never understand why people try to act like a slob. In my opinion, it doesn’t make you look cool or more desirable, but just dumb. Anyways, I feel like girls should make a commitment or promise to themselves to keep it classy while out – as simple as that. Make the quality of your actions a priority.
- Learn from mistakes – Like I said, I’ve had nights before that I’m not exactly proud of. But, I’ve definitely learned form them. I’ve learned how I don’t want to act and how to prevent those actions. I’ve learned more about my values and much, much more about how I truly like to have fun. Everyone makes mistakes, especially in college. Learn from them and use them as a valuable lesson and guide.
Don’t get me wrong, I love going out and having fun. I love getting dressed up and drinking champagne with my friends. I just like staying classy while I do it.