This is such an overdo post. Like over two weeks overdo. But a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I hit a major milestone. We’ve been dating for three year. Well, over three years now.
I can’t believe how quickly time has passed. But at the same time, I can’t imagine a time in my life without him in it. He is so very special to me, and sometimes I wish I’d met him sooner, known him longer, had more time to make more great memories. Sometimes I think about how much of each others lives we missed because we did not always know each other, and it’s such a weird feeling, because now I feel like we know each other better than anyone.
This quote exactly sums up how I feel about him:
But when I think these things, I can’t help but be excited for all the great memories to come. There will be so many, many more.
And don’t get me wrong, being apart the majority of our time is tough. There are so many things, every day, that I think I wish he could be here for this, or, I wish we could be doing this together.
But, the way our relationship is works for us and there will be so much together time in the future to do a million things together. To make a million memories. To get annoyed with each other and forget how hard it was to be apart.
Last week I went to Florida (as I’ve mentioned before) and it just so happens I spent the week with my boyfriend there. I don’t blog too much about my relationship with him because…it’s private. I’m not sure I would like it if he was broadcasting stuff about our relationship, so I don’t feel right doing it to him.
Anyways, without going into a lot of detail, we spent an entire week together. This is the longest we’ve ever spent together at a time, by far. We have a long distance relationship so this was definitely a treat and something we were really excited for. In a way, though, it was something I felt nervous for. It was a definite test to our relationship, and it was important to me that we could go a week without driving each other crazy.
I’m really happy that by the end of the week, we were not sick of each other – at all. We were actually really sad to say goodbye. But for sure, being with your significant other can test a girls’ patience and sometimes sanity. If you’re going to be spending extended time with your boyfriend soon, here is to how to make it as fun as possible for both of you:
Have fun! – you are with this person probably because you have fun with them. Relax and do whatever you guys want to do and whatever will facilitate a good time.
Be patient – part of being in a relationship, whether you’re near or far, is learning to be patient with the other one. Remember that you’re not the only one who’s patience is tested. His is probably tested by you, at times, too! Have the patience with him that you would want in return if he starts to get on your nerves.
Do things apart – even though you may be on a vacation together, it doesn’t mean you have to spend every single second attached at the hip. It’s normal to want to do your own thing, at times. Let him play golf while you lounge by the pool, or something like that. It’s okay and healthy to have different interests and both of you should be able to enjoy them on vacation.
Compromise! – there will definitely be times during vacation where you both are after different things. Like many other times during your relationship, you have to compromise! Do what you can to appease both of you at the same time and you will both be happy.
Be understanding – during our vacation, my boyfriend really wanted to watch a few basketball games. He’s really into sports and I understand that about him. Therefore, when he wanted to do that instead of going to the beach or something else, I didn’t let it get to me. I understood that that was important to him and didn’t mind it happening, just as he would do the same for me. Being understanding during situations like this will help make both of you happy and show how much you want your boyfriend to have a great vaca.
It’s fun to go on vacations with your boyfriend! This was my first one with mine and it was really great. As long as you are considerate of one another, I’m sure you’ll have a blast! Always realize that the most important thing is simply being together and enjoying your time with one another.
Friendship is undoubtedly one of the best parts of life. They are just so important.
I am lucky enough to have great friends who I know will always be there for me. As I’ve grown up, I really have realized how much more important it is to have several real friends than a bunch of fake ones.
My friends make me me laugh. They turn bad days into good ones and make life more fun. They’re there for me even when they don’t have the time or energy. They love me unconditionally.
Just last week, I was having a bad day and one of my best friends came over and went to dinner with me, even though I know she had absolutely no time to do so. She is always there for me and is such a good friend who always makes time to talk about the silly life dramas that I encounter, listen to me whine and complain, and offer me advice when I need it.
I am so very lucky to have friends that constantly build me up and let me know they’re there for me all the time.
I like to think of myself as a good friend and I consider it very important to maintain my friendships and treat my friends as well as they treat me. Here are my rules of friendship:
Always be supportive – even if you don’t always agree with the actions of your friends, at the end of the day, you need to be supportive. You can tell them your opinion (in a nice way!) but at the end of the day, respect their opinions and choices. Your support will mean a lot to them, especially if it seems like no one else is on their side.
Give space – just because you’re best friends with someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them all the time. Everyone has a busy life and good friends can go days without seeing each other and not care, being supportive and accommodating of one another’s schedules.
Be considerate – as a friend, know what’s going on in your friends’ lives and be considerate of what’s going on in their lives, how they’re feeling, and what kind of support they need at that time.
Have fun – one of the biggest reasons we love hanging with friends is because it’s fun! Friends have a natural ability to have fun with each other. Always be thinking of new fun things you can do with your friends. Or, do the same thing you always do as a kind of “tradition” with your friends. Whatever you do, make it fun! That’s what friends are for.
Be there for them. No matter what – no matter how busy, tired, emotional, crazed, annoyed, moody, frazzled, or upset you are – make time for your friends when they need you. The friends that mean the most to me are the ones that are there when it’s difficult and inconvenient, not just when it’s easy. Be that friend for someone and you will really make a difference in their life.
Like I said, friendship is important. Be there for your friends and do little things to let them know how important and special they are to you! They will appreciate it, I guarantee it.
Lately I feel like time has been moving so quickly – it’s crazy! Before we know it, the school year will be over, which is a really scary thought. Every day is filled with tons of work and assignments and running around, and it leaves little time to sit down and really think about life and the things that it is filled with. Like…the things that matter.
I was thinking, though, the other day, about all the great people and things I have in my life. I have an amazing family and friends that feel like family. There are so many people that I know would do absolutely anything for me, and not everyone is lucky enough to have that in their life.
As I was thinking about this, I began to think about the little things that make me smile. Recently my boyfriend randomly surprised me with an Edible Arrangement and it made me so happy. Things that are seemingly insignificant to the world but that are important to me are the things that make everyday life better and make me happy.
A fun phone call with my mom and sister. A nice text from my dad. A silly tweet from my boyfriend or a laugh filled with giggles with friends.
Those things are small and simple, but probably the best things in my life because they are raw and real and…nice. Think about the nice things people have done for you that have lifted you up and made you feel special, important, and – most importantly – happy.
No day is filled with all happiness all the time. But it’s the little things that get us from one smile to the next.
I saw this quote from Dr. Oz last week and totally loved it:
It is so simple but such a great mantra to live by.
Love the things you do, love the people you surround yourself with, love the way you act, feel, and see the world around you. Love with all of your heart and don’t ever, ever do things out of hate or spite. Do things simply out of love and care and for love.
Whether you’re motivated by love for your job or love for your friends, love for your significant other or family, love for life, love for fitness, creativity, science, numbers, or community service…or maybe a combination of love for all, a few, or several of those things…let love guide your life and you are guaranteed to be happy.
Have you ever been in a super awkward break up situation? How about one in college? How about one where you live next door to the person you just broke up with?
Yeah, I’ve been there. Like I shared a wall with the person I broke up with in my dorm. Luckily this was a while ago, but that doesn’t make the memories any less…well, awkward.
Not to get too personal, because no one really cares about the nitty gritty details of this relationship (and it is so in the past), but I was in a short relationship with a guy who lived next door to me in the beginning of college.
At first, everything was great and I was really into it, but then I slowly realized it just wasn’t a match for me. It was no one’s fault, it just wasn’t meant to be.
Long story short, once I realized this and broke it off, living next door got…hairy. It was definitely a difficult adjustment since I was friends with the people who lived next door and didn’t want to lose those friendships, but I also didn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable or feel awkward.
When you’re in this situation though, or one similar to it, there are ways to lessen the discomfort while still keeping your friendships (and sanity). Here’s how:
Agree to be friends – as long as you don’t have a terrible break up, agree to be friends and actually mean it. This will be difficult at first, no doubt about it. But make an effort to still talk, get lunch together with friends, and stay interested in each other’s lives. Just because it didn’t work out for you two romantically doesn’t mean you can’t have a friendly connection that is worth maintaining.
Be polite – even though break up’s are awkward, there is no reason to be impolite! Ever! Be cordial and if you can’t be friends, at least be cordial and keep the peace.
Agree – even though one person is the breaker-upper, find neutral ground as to why you are breaking it off to make it more amicable and less awkward to still be in contact all the time. Talk it out and make the other realize why you aren’t meant to be rather than just insisting you’re done. Make them understand and they may just come to agree with you. This will make it so much easier to be friends and truly lessen any discomfort between you two.
Don’t gossip about it – obviously you’re going to tell your friends you and this guy are no longer an item, but never gossip about it or bad-talk him. It will get around your living space and become a huge issue. Believe me, you won’t want to deal with it and it will blow up in your face. Especially in this situation, the less you say the better. You wouldn’t want him bad talking you for everyone to find out, so don’t do it to him.
Be understanding and respectful – understand your ex’s side of things and that his feelings are hurt and you may not be able to jump right into a friendship. Also understand that there may be a period of time that it will be weird to not be dating or together anymore. Furthermore, be respectful of each other and don’t flaunt new flames or relationships in the other’s face because it is really just not nice or necessary! Being understanding and very respectful eliminates anger, awkwardness, drama, and gossip.
What’s your most awkward past break up situation? How did you make it more comfortable?
I have recently been writing for an awesome website called StyleQuirk.
It is so cool and they have a ton of articles on there about beauty, style, fashion, health, trends, lifestyle…and just about anything else you can think of!
I’ve written a bunch of articles for them so far and hope to write a lot more in the future. They are truly a great site for women to look at that tackles many different topics, ranging from something as silly as putting bacon on everything or something as serious as how to deal with an obese child.
I love the nature of this site’s writing and how conversational the tone of it is. The writers for SQ truly have a way with words and make reading their content fun! I also love the broad range of topics in one place rather than having to browse four different sites to find articles on things varying from DIY crafts to celebrity news to style columns to relationship advice.